In the beginning of 2018, I did like so many others, I made the resolution. But this was not just a resolution, this a very distinct set of goals. 27 to be exact. 27 goals, in which I examined, and had broken down into smaller goals, you know, more attainable. Now, here I am almost at the end of 2018 feeling defeated.

I started looking at all the goals that I have yet to complete. One in particular, that I put so much of myself into that it caused me not to be able to achieve it. I know that may sound unreasonable but as I looked back at the steps that I took, the one constant thing in all of my actions was fear. So I have to ask myself why?

I believe that fear is one of the strongest emotion that we can feel. It hits us hard and can demobilize us. It seems to me that once we start operating out of fear the only thing that will follow is worry, sleepless nights and unhealthiness. When we are operating like this, we make mistakes that can only lead to setbacks.

So I have decided that when I start feeling that fear come into my life, I am going to start examining it until I find the root of all evil. In the past I have found that fear does come from the unknown. Whether it is not knowing how something works or what’s going to happen next or the things that are out of our control, the unknown is a very scary place. One of the tools that I recently started using when I get into this scary place is the next right thing. I just asked myself, what is the next right thing to do? Do I need to ask more questions? Do I need to make a confirmation? Do I need to just wait? Sometimes the answer is simply just to wait, give yourself time to get the aha moment.

Needless to say, the 2019 top resolution will be to abate the fear!!! So I ask, what are some of your tools that you use when you are operating in fear?

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