Again this week, the preacher-man just left me feeling doomed. This time cutting right to the chase, not even getting me excited, just bomb! This month being the love month, he is talking about relationships, mainly the marriage ones but last week was devoted to the singles.
So now that we are over here talking marriage, he laid down some hard core things. Nothing I have never heard before but this round, at this stage of my life, they hit home.
The pattern for marriage:
To believe, To leave, To cleave.
To believe: believe that God made Adam a suitable helper, Eve. Suitable meaning to be like, but opposite, compatible, puzzle pieces. Same garden, same maker, equal value like the trinity. Helper meaning to compliment him, strength and power.
To leave your parents: A. Spiritually- you’re faith needs to be your own. B. Emotionally – final approvals or vote decisions C. Financially- false expectations. D. Culturally – traditions, habits etc.
To Cleave to your partner, like glue, on all levels: emotional, financial, spiritual.
What made me sad was, I have never really left my parents on all those levels. It felt like it was being rubbed in my face but it is truth. Spiritual, yes, in my early twenties but emotionally and financially no. They were always spoiling both my brother and I. Always helping us when we needed and really did not give us the freedom to stand on our own two feet. Same with emotionally attachment, they never told me to figure it out for myself. The problem is when they passed, I just transferred it over to my best friend. This feels horrible and I have known for awhile that I needed to get back on my own but it has been terrifying. Terrifying is an understatement, but it is where I am. Truth is that no matter what age or stage a person is in life, they need to be spiritually, financially and emotionally secure. Granted, I have been working on both the latter, but things are just not falling into place fast enough.
The power in all this is trusting Him and His process for me. Knowing I am where I need to be right now.
Much Love 💜 Much Life